Changes: six months later

Back in September I wrote a post about the many changes going on in my life, including a commitment I made to myself to lead a healthier life by prioritizing the things that would make me happiest – “Operation Choose Joy” is what I called it – focused largely on getting my diet and exercise in order. I set some six-month goals, so here is the six-month update. My initial focus was on exercise. I joined the same gym my sister goes to and we started working out together once or twice a week. I also started swimming, which I have always loved, and I walked to and from work as often as weather and time would allow. I started making small changes to my diet too, mostly based on bringing my lunch to work rather than eating out. It’s amazing what that does to one’s diet AND bank account! I also focused on portions and just making better decisions in general – no fried food, hardly any sugar, alcohol, dairy, or red meat. I also stopped drinking coffee since caffeine has always made me feel sort of blah. From October to February I lost and have kept off about 10 pounds, which is great – I’m proud that I stuck with it and feel like I’ve adjusted my habits for life. However, at 10 pounds, I hit a wall. It was impossible to lose another pound even though I was working out more than ever, largely thanks to my sister signing us up for boot camp. I behaved over the holidays and during my two January weeks in Mexico was really active and only ate twice a day so didn’t worry too much about what I ate at those meals, though it was mostly good, whole foods. By February 15 I was at the same weight despite all my efforts and I got really discouraged, slowly spiraling into bad food habits and more or less abandoning the gym. Luckily that didn’t last too long! In the first week of March I snapped out of it, started doing Nia which is a sort of cheesy but totally awesome dance class, got back in the habit of walking to work, and committed to a March 15 “gluten free” start date. In 2007 I went gluten free for about 8 months, during which I felt amazing and dropped some serious lbs. I’m slightly allergic (like a lot of us are) and my body is so much happier without it. But then I moved to South America and my gluten free life went the way of the Dodo. Now I’m starting again and so far, so good. I should clarify that I’m not a 100% stickler: there is gluten in soy sauce, for instance, but I haven’t cut that out. I’m mostly focused on the big offenders: pasta, bread, crackers, cookies – anything that has flour as a primary ingredient. I’m also going “low carb” in general, so I’m not replacing pasta with brown rice pasta, or noodles with rice noodles. Instead I’m eating a lot of vegetables, legumes, and lean protein. So that’s my update. Spring just started so I have a full season left to get into bathing suit shape. Overall I’m proud of my progress and my commitment, and grateful that I have a healthy self-image so that even with some lbs to go, I think I have a pretty rockin’ bod. And things are grand in the rest of my life, too.

• I adore my apartment. It's such a wonderful space, I feel good in it, and I love that other people love to spend time in it. I have done some serious cooking in that kitchen, including for some 15-20 person parties.


• I really like my new position and am about to have my seven year anniversary with the company.


• My hair is getting long.


• I meditate and get acupuncture and massage therapy - hella zen up in here.


• I became Toddler J's unofficial godmother and get to see him all the time (he's almost 2).


• It's spring! K and I started gardening last week - there's nothing like the smell of freshly turned earth.


• I'm going to start learning how to make my own clothes.

Life is (what we make it).

Long weekend in Los Angeles

Last week I spent 4 days in Los Angeles visiting friends and extended family. I flew in late Wednesday night and had a generally grumpy day turn into a truly magical evening. My dear friend Annie picked me up at the airport (yeah Glendale!) and we wound our way to her Swiss chalet complex in West Hollywood where her delightful roommates and a friend of mine I had not seen in 10 years awaited us. Here is that complex is by daylight:


Back to the waiting friend: I had heard hide nor hair of Jamie Grace, one of three people with whom I connected emotionally during my single year at Loyola Marymount in LA, since the last day I saw her in May 2001. A few months ago she found my blog and left a comment, prompting me to e-stalk her, get in contact, and arrange for this very fortuitous meeting in WeHo (yes, people really call it that). We convened around 11 and what I thought would be an hour of chit-chat turned into 4 hours of fascinating, often deep conversation and debate. Even at 3 am we were still lively but everyone had to be up early so we forced ourselves to bed. J.G. stayed over too, and I was especially grateful for the chance to catch up on her and the fantastic things she’s done with the last decade of her life.

I had originally wanted to get to Disneyland right when it opened at 9 am, but we decided fighting traffic wouldn’t be worth it and let ourselves sleep in a bit. After a nice morning of tea and more catching up, Annie and I were underway by 10. Traffic was pretty light and parking was a breeze – hardly any cars in line! We got on the tram to the park at 11:00, exchanged the vouchers my friend Taylor generously gave us for two park-hopper tickets, took our picture with the Mickey flowers, and entered my favorite childhood destination.

I had never been to the park with anyone except my family and we all have a very strong association between Disney and familial bliss. But Annie was the perfect Disney partner, letting me be totally bossy about what we were going to do. I had never been there any time except August (the month of our annual family vacation to visit family in LA) and I was grateful that I had booked my trip for the first week in March before spring break started. The parks were virtually empty! Within our first hour we had been on Space Mountain, ridden the Matterhorn Bobsleds, and seen Captain Eo - a hilarious though badly-aged 3D adventure starring Michael Jackson and directed by George Lucas from 1986 that they resurrected after MJ’s death.

Normally any one of those would have had an hour-long line – at least –so I was giddy. I had downloaded an iPhone application that tells you ride wait times and we checked it all day, with me frequently exclaiming things like, “Only five minutes to get on Pirates of the Caribbean??” We didn’t get a single fast pass because the two lines started at the exact same place.

In Disney we also did, in this order: Mr. Toad’s Wild Ride (usually there is an inexplicably long line for this), Big Thunder Mountain, paused for a soup bread bowl and churro, Pirates of the Caribbean, Haunted Mansion, and the Jungle Book cruise. Then we crossed over to California Adventure. I hadn’t been there since it opened 10 years ago and I got to go to a preview day for free as a member of the press when I worked on the newspaper at LMU. We started with Soarin’ over California (so, so cool), then got really wet on the water ride. Luckily it was a beautiful day and a few minutes in the sun had dried us off. We then waited in the longest line all day for the Toy Story ride, which admittedly was one of the most fun things we did all day. It’s like a video game! We were in stitches laughing. We followed that up with Screamin’, a killer roller coaster, and then walked through the animation studios which I remembered being cooler 10 years ago.

Our last stop in CA was the Tower of Terror. My least favorite sensation in the world is that of losing your stomach, and it seemed to me that an elevator ride that dropped you over and over would pretty much be that feeling, over and over. But, both my mom and sister insisted I do and I knew I’d never live it down if I didn’t. The line for the ride is really cool and sets the mood beautifully – the premise is a Twilight Zone episode in which you’re in the classic Hollywood era at a fancy hotel. The normal elevator is broken, so you have to take the freight, which some years ago during a lightning storm caused its occupants to disappear. I made friends with a 7 year old girl (who had been going on it since she was 4!) and her mom who didn’t particularly like the ride but was cool enough to take her daughter every year. The four of us rode together and our “elevator operator” could not have been more perfect for the role: bombshell ‘50s blonde with a deep voice and a wry sense of humor. The doors closed, Annie’s hand clamped down on my thigh, and up we went, slooowly. The ride is different each time so you never know how high you’ll go or how many times they’ll raise you back up and drop you again. When you get to the very top they open the doors so you can look out on the landscape, which was very cool. Actually, the whole ride was really cool! Since they actually push you down and don’t just drop you, I didn’t have that horrid weightless stomach-loss feeling and I would admit that it was probably my favorite ride all day. Here is the picture they took of us at the top:


If we had had more time we would have ridden Tower of Terror again, but I wanted to get back to Disney to ride the Storybook boat at night so back across the parks we went. As we were entering Disneyland again, something happened which has never happened to me before in the 18 visits I’ve made to the park. There, just as we walked in, stood the mouse himself: Mickey, with nary a crowd to be seen around him. I stopped dead in my tracks and stammered, “It’s… it’s Mickey. Look. Mickey. Mickey Mouse.” Of course we got a picture with him, and I don’t even care how bad it is – it’s freakin’ Mickey Mouse! He never just strolls around the park on his own. Usually you have to stand in line to see him in Toon Town which, let’s face it, who does that? Someone told me that he’s only ever out at one park in the world at a time. If that’s true it makes the sighting that much more rare and awesome.

From there we went to Storybook which gives me the warm fuzzies from a childhood of idolizing the boat guides, beautiful women in long dresses who would sometimes let me sit on the bow of the boat with them. I almost regret riding it, because although it is as cute as I remembered, the costumes have changed, our guide was shrill, there were fat people in the boat (since it was built in the ’50s when people were smaller, it breaks all the time because we’ve gotten so fat, which made me very protective of the little boat), and someone took probably 100 flash photos in the 4 minutes we were on the water. Ah, well.


After that we also rode Pinocchio because there was no line. Those kids rides really have terrifying imagery! By then the park was closing down so we strolled down Main street, choosing to enjoy the shops rather than hurry back across to see the light show at California Adventure, which we didn’t even have seats for so the likelihood of seeing much was slim. We got a caramel apple and flattened some pennies, then boarded the tram and drove happily away from the happiest place on earth.

Annie dropped me off in Glendale at my Gramma’s house around 10 pm. I slept like the dead in a very cozy bed and woke up to her smiling face and a nice cup of coffee. Being in that house is another cherished childhood memory, and I’m grateful that so much has stayed the same. Gramma sends everyone a daily update and for the last several months has been writing her life history for us to enjoy. It’s been so interesting that I wanted to do something with it, so we spent the morning going through old photo albums filled with incredible pictures and documents. She very trustingly let me borrow them so I can make digital copies and hopefully turn it into a book with her memoirs for the family to have. It was so interesting talking about all of that history that when she asked if I wanted breakfast, I looked at my watch and it was after noon. So we got dressed for lunch instead, hitting up a sweet tea house in Glendale called Favorite Place where the owners know her and gifted us two delectable red velvet cupcakes for dessert.

After that we drove to Forest Lawn memorial park in Glendale where there is a small but interesting museum. Apparently in the building next door there is the largest painting of the last supper in the world, but we missed the viewing time and instead focused on the stain glass exhibit in the museum, which was quite a sight. Some of them were as old as the 12th century. We also toured the sculpture room, where I was stunned to come face-to-face with a Moai from Easter island. You very, very rarely see these outside of Chile and I was mesmerized for some minutes in front of it.

By the time we got back to the house it was time for my aunt Sandy to pick me up. She was in the area and agreed to collect me so my cousin Lana didn’t have to make the brutal round trip in Friday afternoon traffic. The hour flew by as we caught up, and we had a glass of wine at their beautiful house in Malibu before Lana whisked me away to Santa Monica for dinner at a “hipster Chinese restaurant” with more family members (Lana’s husband Karl; her sister/my cousin Lauren and her fiancé Nick) and some of their friends. You can bring your own wine which was cool, and the food was great – a high compliment from someone who worked in Seattle’s International District for years and knows her Chinese cuisine! After that we hit a few bars but didn’t stay out too late.

The next morning while Karl went surfing, Lana and I had a nice fruit, granola, and Greek yogurt breakfast and then went on a hike in nearby Temescal Canyon. It was so close we were able to walk to it. The hike was perfect, just the right level of difficulty so we were sweating but could still maintain a conversation. The views from the top were impressive, though Lana lamented that it wasn’t more clear over the ocean. I didn't take a camera with me but I borrowed this from Google (thanks, Alan Fogelquist):

On our way back we stopped for lunch at a happening café called Vida. There are always famous people out and about in Pacific Palisades so I was disappointed that all we saw was someone from The Hills, and definitely not someone I recognized.

We took quick showers and then were on our way to her sister/my cousin Larissa and her husband Justin’s house for a family party. They recently had an adorable baby girl and I managed to hold her for a few minutes before she was stolen from me. Between my aunts and Gramma it was hard getting a piece of her.

My extended family is huge – my grandparents had 4 kids and each of them had 3 or 4 kids. Plus, it’s only bigger now that my cousins are getting married and having their own kids. Even with my family and another family missing from the fray, there were still close to 20 people there. It was so great to catch up with everyone, and Annie came to meet the troops. Dinner was delicious - lasagna followed by chocolate ganache cake – and the last of us didn’t leave until 10 pm we were having such a ball.

I spent that night at Gramma’s again and on Sunday Annie came over for lunch (she wins for putting in so much effort to see me). After that she had a movie shoot and Gramma and I went to Descanso gardens, a sort of botanical garden meets arboretum. The camellias, cherry trees, and lilacs were in bloom and it was another beautiful day.

We sat for awhile in the Japanese garden and then checked out a camellia competition. Hundreds of blooms were on display, and we puzzled over what made one a first-prize bloom versus the second-prize next to it, and wondered what the different categories meant. It’s fascinating to think about people creating their own camellia strains and entering them into competitions.

From there we visited Gramma’s mom, brother, and my Grandpa, who rest in peace on a beautiful hill in Forest Lawn Hollywood Hills. We went on March 13, and March 15 would have been Grandpa’s 91st birthday. (Happy birthday, Grandpa!)

We had to go straight to the airport from there, wrapping up my action-packed four days in Los Angeles. I wish I had more time but I fit a lot in and it was really wonderful to spend so much time with Gramma and to see as many people as I could.

February Update

I just realized that if I don't post today, it would be the first time I didn't write at least once in a month since I started this blog back in 2007. Talk about lazy blogging!

First, a Mexico update: I have been languorously writing about my trip as the mood and memories strike. The ultimate result will be a series of detailed posts with pictures, but I'm going to stop making promises about when that's coming.

Second, why haven't I been blogging in general? You might think it's because life doesn't seem quite as exciting now that I live in the U.S., but my weeks continue to be filled with varied and interesting activities even and maybe especially when I'm stateside. For instance, in the month of February I have:

• Gone to a Heroes and Villians costume party:






Hosted a very successful clothing swap and brunch:



Participated in (and cooked for) multiple board game nights (Settlers of Catan, how we love thee)
Been speed dating (Yes, again! I can't get enough of awkward social situations)
Cheered for a friend's Roller Derby Team
Survived cross country skiing:







Taken the Underground Tour for the third time (third time was enough)
Cooked countless delicious things - I love winter food and getting a bi-weekly produce box keeps me on my culinary feet.
Delighted in numerous brunches, lunches, and dinners with friends and family.

So, why haven't I written in unecessary detail about any of these events? I blame it on not having the internet at my apartment. But how can you LIVE without the internet, you ask? Easily. I also don't have a TV - it's the dark ages at my house and that's the way I like it. But I realize my laziness isn't fair to the 5 of you who regularly check in on me, nor to future generations who will pour over my every word (ahem), nor to future me who will wonder what I did with my youth and be grateful for this convenient record, so I will try to do a better job of writing in the future for all of our sakes.

A mythical event explored: speed dating

I know, I know, I’ve been a lazy blogger and need to write at least one and probably two blogs about my Mexico vacation (which was fabulous, incidentally). But vacation blogs take me forever to write since it also requires sorting through pictures, etc. and we all know I’m incapable of leaving out even the minutest detail, so I just haven’t prioritized that necessary 3-4 hour block of time in my post-vacation schedule. That schedule included a week of sleeping 10-11 hours a night, and then once I snapped out of that it turned out I had a lot to do after 2 weeks out of the country and a week of nothing but work and sleep.

One of those things was – you guessed it – speed dating. I’m sure I’ve mentioned before how utterly obnoxious it is trying to date in Seattle. Thanks to the Seattle Freeze, even natives like me have a hard time meeting people, new friends or otherwise. That was one motivation for going to speed dating.

The second and more influential motivation was the shroud of mystery and hilarity that surrounds speed dating; a sort of urban legend, if you will. Think about it: it's often discussed and portrayed in movies, it's sometimes the subject of a joke or funny conversation, but how many people do you know who have actually attended a speed dating event? Very few, I bet.

I had planned on attending an event in January with a friend, but then she decided to go out of town so I conned a coworker into going with me. Neither one of us knew what the night would hold, but we approached it with light hearts and low expectations.

Here's how it worked: Tickets were sold for three age groups, 21-33, 30-41, and 40+ (overlap intentional so people could choose if they were on the cusp). Then, as you sign in, you are given a number. Ever the rule follower, I made sure we got there right at 6:30, and as a result we were the first two women to sign in, so our numbers were F1 and F2. You then go on a 5 minute "date" with 10 men in your age group. I dated M1-M10. After each date, you circle 'yes' or 'no' next to that person's number. If you both circle 'yes,' you get each other's email addresses the next day.

My night couldn't have started on a more perfect note in terms of the awkward/hilarious situations you would expect from such haphazard pairings. My first "date" was a 22-year-old "wealth manager." He was sweet enough but looked like he was 15, and when he found out I had been at my job for 7 years his jaw dropped as I watched him mentally calculate how old that must make me.

I have to point out that of 10 men, 7 of them were not from the U.S. and all 7 of them worked for Microsoft. This appears to have been a coincidence since the event was in no way Microsoft-centric, but it was certainly an interesting element. Probably the most painful/memorable was when my friend went on a "date" with one such fellow who professed that his goal in attending speed dating was to "meet a wife and take her back to China" (to which my friend replied politely, "Well, good luck!") and then in the very next round - i.e. his date with ME - he asked me out on the spot. Yikes.

Overall the people were pleasant and interesting and I only anxiously awaited the 5 minute bell to ring twice. Having the same conversation over and over was a bit tiresome but I tried to mix it up as did a lot of the men, resulting in such questions as "What was the best Christmas present you got?" and "If all jobs paid the same, what would you do?" and "If you could date any cartoon character from your childhood, who would it be?" (My answer was Disney's Robin Hood, of course. What a fox!)

It was a fascinating anthropological event which unto itself would have been worth it. But, at least in my case, it did not fail to produce the results so many people attend these events hoping for, so it was a double success in my book. Overall I heartily recommend speed dating to the curious singleton!

I love Christmas

I really love the Christmas season, and for some reason this year was even more enjoyable than years past. Maybe it’s because last year was the first Christmas I’d ever spent away from Seattle, so I had two years’ worth of build up. The early advertisements didn’t bother me and I happily listened to Christmas music at every opportunity, only reaching my saturation point on Christmas day itself – perfect timing.

I planned my company’s holiday party, attended a lovely Hanukah dinner (mmm, latkes!), and went to half a dozen other Christmas parties and dinners - including a Santa-themed pub crawl and a dinner where I roasted my very first duck - before the big day. The duck was delicious!

The most memorable of these was Adam’s yearly Christmas party, in which guests are advised: “don’t come as you are . . . come a little bit better.” This results in a normally casual group transformed into a sharply dressed crew. Adam goes all out, including providing a top-shelf bar meant to last well into the night, decorating to the nines, and dressing as Santa and subjecting himself to an hour or more of Santa pictures. I didn’t make it home until 6 am and it was definitely the party of the year.

Contrary to the stereotypical stress-inducing family, mine is a joy to be with on Christmas day (and otherwise). We have very few obligations and a long-standing tradition of staying in our PJs all day – no one comes and no one goes. We make Chex Mix, drink hot buttered rum, watch movies, and play board games.

Of course, before all of that we open presents. Ever since we were kids, my parents have treated Christmas as the one day of the year when we’re extravagant, from sweet to savory, from decorations to gifts. Growing up without a lot of money, this was a particularly touching feat, one we didn’t fully appreciate until we were adults. This year was no different, but now that the kids are adults we give each other great gifts, too. All in all a very satisfying and relaxed morning of ripping open wrapping paper, pausing to eat overnight waffles, and finishing off at a leisurely pace. Another difference is that as adults we can stretch gift-opening until the early afternoon. Here is my sister displaying a fan of incense samplings and my dad figuring out his new Kindle in the background:

The only bummer was that I got the 24-hour flu, from about 2 pm Christmas day until pretty much right now. It was, as the flu goes, quite mild, which doesn’t mean it was fun (I’m not sure which was worse, puking or missing out on all the good eats) but at least I recovered quickly because I go to Mexico tomorrow!

I’ll be touring the Yucatan peninsula for the next 2 weeks. I’ve been dying to get back to Mexico ever since my last trip when I went to Oaxaca and the Southern coast for my 24th birthday. Five years later I’ll be spending New Year’s and my 29th birthday amid Mayan ruins and next to the Caribbean sea.

So, happy end of the holiday season to all of you, stay tuned for vacation highlights, and I'll see you in the new year!

Backlog blog #5: Manu Chao plays Seattle

Manu Chao has long been one of my favorite musicians. His were the first songs I could sing all the way through in Spanish, I have very fond memories of my Spanish boyfriend singing me Manu Chao songs when I studied abroad in Sevilla, and I never tire of hearing the same albums over and over again.

So, even though I am famous for disliking live music, I have now been to two Manu Chao concerts in the same calendar year.

I had the opportunity to see Manu Chao last year in Argentina and I jumped on it - taking a bunch of Americans and one Brasilian with me - because he so rarely plays in the U.S. It was a memorable show and I was grateful to have seen him.

Imagine my surprise when, on the first day walking to work from my new Capitol hill apartment in October, I passed the Paramount Theater and its placard announcing Manu Chao for the very next week. I quite literally did a double take, even rubbed my eyes to make sure it wasn't a mirage. Sure enough, he was doing several shows in the U.S. on the west coast, and Seattle was his first stop. Of course I had to go to his first Seattle show ever!

The natural choice for a friend to accompany me was my co-worker Ilona, a woman who loves languages, foreign culture, and a good beat. I bought us tickets at the box office and we counted down the days until it was show time.


The show was fantastic. I couldn't help but compare the two shows, and here are my thoughts.


Similarities:

Energy. That man brings an insane, inhuman amount of energy to every show he does. This is especially evident in his jumpy movements and the frequent beating of the microphone against his heart and head, which actually is a pretty cool sound effect.

Repeated sounds. At each show, Manu and his crew seem to zero in on a short, catchy riff that they repeat, and repeat, and repeat... in Argentina this went on for nearly an hours' worth of encores. To be honest, it was getting pretty old by the end of what was a 3.5 hour show.

Crazy long encores. So, so long. Like, almost as long as the show itself, both times. Though he kind of cheats by using that repeated riff... Oh, ooooh, oh, OH, OH, oh.

Price. Totally reasonable in both cities.

Differences:

Band size. In Seattle, it was just Manu + his lead guitarist and a drummer. In Argentina, there must have been 10-12 musicians on stage. Still, the energy level was incredible.

Venue. In Argentina, thousands of people packed into a free-for-all stadium with minimal security and virtually no rules - smoke 'em if you got 'em kind of scene. Compare this with the uber-anal Paramount theater, where the employees seem to go out of their way to destroy as much of the show's magic for you as possible.

Each venue had its advantages and disadvantages. In Argentina, it was crazy and awesome and you could go anywhere you could maneuver yourself. Of course, this also involved a lot of pushing and illegal drug activities, and in a closed stadium that much cigarette smoke was a disgusting detractor.

In Seattle, you bought your seats ahead of time and even though the open, downstairs area wasn't anywhere CLOSE to full by Argentina standards, the "I-think-my-job-is-really-important" Paramount ushers wouldn't let you budge from where you were assigned. Hell, they wouldn't even let you inch into the aisle to DANCE a little, rushing at you with a flashlight in the face to corral you back to your proper place. And, the stage crew was embarrassingly bad, constantly interfering with the band. I thought Manu Chao was going to pop one of them when after about 3 altercations (including one where Manu actually tripped over one of them in his way) the stage crew guy wouldn't hand him his guitar, apparently fiddling with a string for about 2 solid minutes ... are you kidding, guy?? It was so bad I was actually embarrassed, like blushing and groaning and fidgeting uncomfortably embarrassed for the impression Seattle's stage crew was causing. But, the air was clean and I wasn't scared for my life.

Shorter sets. In Argentina, there are no limits to how long a show can go, and with a crowd of 10,000+ that can be a long time. Although his show in Seattle was certainly long by Seattle standards, it was nowhere near the almost too-long show he did in the south.

Dance crowd. Of course Argentina blows Seattle out of the water for the dance scene, because EVERYONE DANCES. Like, duh. Why go to a Manu Chao concert if you aren't going to dance? Passive, boring Seattle was a little more restrained up in the balcony seats, but some of us were definitely going crazy (much to the dismay of those sitting near us.) I have to give it to Seattle, though: those on the main floor actually had a mosh pit going, and a pretty solid one at that (is there anything Seattle goers won't mosh to?), plus several successful crowd surfers.

In short, I was delighted to be at both shows and particularly pleased to have two very different Manu concerts under my belt. You better believe that if he's ever in a city when I'm there again, I'll continue adding notches to my Manu Chao belt!

And, thus ends my backlog - I'm finally caught up. Next you can expect something about Christmas, and then I'm off to the Yucatan peninsula in Mexico for 12 days where I'll spend New Year's and my birthday. I'll blog from the road if possible, but if not you know you can count on a 'super comprehensive' (aka stupidly long) blog with photos on my return.

A non-traditional Thanksgiving

As everyone must know by now, I love Thanksgiving. But, I am not beholden to a single Thursday in November to celebrate it; in fact, I’m fairly indifferent about its specific date. So when Robyn suggested an out of town retreat I jumped at the idea of a few days of R&R.

Of course, only a crazy person would fly over Thanksgiving break so we searched for a local option and came up with the Bonneville Resort on the Columbia River. Bingo! We booked ourselves for 3 nights and several spa treatments and patiently awaited our mini-break.

There was some temporary concern when the storm hit that we wouldn’t be able to make it out of the city, but luckily by Wednesday morning the streets were more or less OK and the freeway was free and clear so we got out without a problem. Along the way we made a random stop in Kelso to go on a wild goose chase for a UPS store that the iPhone promised us would be there, and it was. Not two hours later when we stopped for groceries, of course, there was a UPS next store. We also hit up Five Guys Burgers, my absolute favorite fast-food-but-not-fast-food place that has magically migrated here from the east coast. By the early afternoon, after some gorgeous scenery along the way, we pulled up to luxury itself – 3 days with nothing to do.

I wasn’t sure what to expect since you can never tell in pictures what a hotel will really be like and it seemed as if it might have a 70s flair, but I was pleasantly surprised. 70s flair aside, the hotel itself is quite grand – I’ve never seen such a majestic room (outside of Vegas) OR such a giant fireplace. Here is the view from our room:

After getting settled in we made our way down to the spa for our 4:00 appointment: a mineral water and essential oil bath followed by a “wrap.” The bath rooms are quite sweet, with deep tubs separated by screens in dimly lit rooms. After 30 minutes of soaking we were ushered into the wrap room, where we were tucked within an inch of our lives into hot blankets, a cool towel covering our eyes. It sounds so simple, yet it was probably the most enjoyable spa treatment I’ve ever had. We left there moving about 10 times slower than when we went in, and lazed in our robes in the tropical pool room for a solid hour before heading back to our room and going to bed by 8 pm.

The next morning was Thanksgiving and we started it off right with mimosas in bed. Then we went downstairs to the most unexpectedly wonderful surprise: FREE BUFFET BREAKFAST. I’m not talking about some dinky little continental affair; this was a full-blown feast including coffee, juice, fruit and oatmeal, bacon and sausage, potatoes, and the best parts of all, an omelet station AND a waffle station. Free. Every morning.

Sometimes we’d look at each other with a gleam in our eyes and we’d know we were thinking about free breakfast. In fact, that free breakfast was such a great deal that we managed to spend almost zero money on food, having brought groceries with us for most meals. The only time we dropped any cash was on the Thanksgiving meal itself. But that’s later… after The Bridge.

I had done some scouting on things to do in the area and came upon what sounded like a promising description of some nearby hot springs. Also nearby was the Bonneville dam, which Robyn was not as into touring in the freezing weather as I was, but it was pretty cool to look at from afar:

Anyway, we decided that on Thanksgiving we’d venture out to check out these hot springs 20 minutes away. We bundled up...

...and off we went further east through several one-horse towns until we came to the Carson Hot Springs Resort. It was a wee bit, how shalle we say, dilapidated?

We went into the main building and asked a bored but pleasant man where the trail started. We didn’t reveal our plans since it was a gray area whether or not it was legal to access them. He pointed us behind the hotel and we started the mile hike across partially frozen but otherwise easy terrain. The directions we were following were sketchy at best but we did manage to find the suspension bridge mentioned:

Yikes! The river was thundering beneath us and we were both terrified to cross, so of course we had to, yelping like scared baby animals all the way. Here is the view from halfway across:

Once on the other side we saw the ‘piece of string’ alluded to in the shady directions which was really a rope and started a very careful scramble across some frozen rocks. When my water bottle fell out and crashed 20 feet to the ground below, and when I saw that after these rocks were more rocks, even more frozen and even more vertical, we very wisely surmised the danger and backed up out of there. (This was one of the many times I have been grateful to be a level-headed, non-thrill-seeking woman.)

Back across the bridge we went, where we encountered two locals who informed us that to get to those hot springs you actually have to scale a vertical wall and that the best way is via raft or other water vessel. I wanted to track down the idiot who wrote the original instructions and tell him what a moron he was, but then again I was the moron who was basing my experience that day on a stranger’s vague description, so I didn’t have anyone to blame but myself.

Safe and sound at the end of the trail we applauded our sound judgment – AND our crossing of the bridge – and started back, stopping to cross the Bridge of the Gods, kind of a lofty name for this unimpressive overpass:

It cost us $1 each way and we were surprised to find that we were in Oregon on the other side, though if we’d stopped to think that we were on the Columbia it probably wouldn’t have come as a shock (like I said, spa life had slowed us down some). We stopped and had sandwiches with a flock of geese, crossed back over the bridge, made our way to the hotel, and sat by the pool for several hours reading before it was time to feast.

Imagine, if you will, a Thanksgiving in which you neither have to cook nor clean, coupled with unfettered, unlimited access to all your favorite dishes: this is the beauty of a gourmet Thanksgiving buffet.

We went back for seconds and thirds and had more than our fill of Thanksgiving classics: requisite turkey, potatoes, and stuffing; green bean casserole made with fresh green beans; tons of veggies and salads and soups and cheeses; and a good variety of pies (which some a-hole next to us actually had the gall to say was a 'thin selection.' Really, guy? How many kinds of pie do you NORMALLY have on Thanksgiving?) There were also non-traditional items like prawns (which we did some damage to) and a prime rib (which we didn't touch). We ordered a bottle of champagne which they let us take back to the room with us, tub and all. Here I am after dinner posing next to our favorite place in the hotel, the "area of rescue":

It was another early night for us, though I stayed up watching Avatar for the first time. I was glad I hadn't wasted any money on this lame adaptation of Pochahontas in the theaters. And don't try to tell me that the 3-D was worth it - I'm so sick of 3-D! It gives me a headache after 20 minutes.

The next day was Friday and we had a soak, wrap, and massage scheduled for the afternoon. As wonderful as all that was, there was something magical about our Wednesday soak and wrap that just couldn't be beat. Afterward we went to the pool, books and robes in tow, and spent some more quality time doing more nothing. There was a hot tub outside called the 'pool of tranquility,' and since it had snowed it was fun being outside in the frozen white landscape engulfed in steaming hot water.

By Friday evening I was getting a little restless - so much nothingness can be tiring! - so we did something a little more active: played UNO for about 2 hours. Not surprisingly, we were in bed early.

Saturday we woke up to our final free breakfast and our final swim in the pool, and we were underway by check-out at noon. My car was covered in snow, which I removed using a tennis racket randomly kicking about in my car. (Note to self: get an ice scraper.)

Snow-covered car aside, the weather was once again on our side and the roads were clear. The views were gorgeous and we stopped at Cape Horn to get some pictures. I love this one because it's hard to tell the difference between sky, cloud, fog, and water:

Of course I had to snap a shot of the Matrix for posterity. This car is going to have quite the photo album:

We got back to Seattle on Saturday evening at about 5 - virtually no traffic! - and spent the night chilling out in our respective apartments before reuniting for one last Thanksgiving weekend event on Sunday: the Christmas Tree farm.

Robyn has gone to the Carnation Tree Farm for the last 5 years and this time I was her guest of honor. I didn't get a tree - the saw is just for the picture - but I did get some garlands which are lovely hanging over my French doors, wrapped in white lights.

Here is Robyn loading up her mini-tree:

Although I love my family and love spending holidays with them, this was a happy and restful way to spend the long Thanksgiving weekend. Hip hip, hooray!